“There’s a habit of mind that the masters have which is this: they are scanning social environment for things they can appreciate and say thank you for. They are building this culture of respect and appreciation very purposefully. Disasters are scanning the social environment for partners’ mistakes.” - Dr. John Gottman
What distinguishes the Masters from the Disasters of Relationships?
Repair during and after a fight is the key to marital success. The repair attempt itself and the reaction to it. If you see your partner trying, acknowledge it. Click through the rest of this page to find out more about what relationship Masters are doing!
Source: The Gottman Institute. (2010, January 18). Relationship Repair that Works | Dr. John Gottman [Video]. YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SqPvgDYmJnY