Find out how good you already are in communicating with your partner by taking this test - find the evaluation criteria at the end of the page. Have fun!
- We are good at taking breaks when we need them.
- My partner usually accepts my apologies.
- I can say that I am wrong.
- When my partner says we should talk to each other in a different way, it usually makes a lot of sense.
- We are pretty good listeners even when we have different positions on things.
- If things get heated, we can usually pull out of it and change things.
- When I comment on how we could communicate better, my partner listens to me.
- Even if things get hard at times, I know we can get past our differences.
- We can be affectionate even when we are disagreeing.
- When emotions run hot, expressing how upset I feel makes a real difference.
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Evaluation:
True= 10 Points False= 0 Points
Now, count all your True’s and False’s together and you should have a score:
What does your score mean?
- 50 or above: Congratulations! This is an area of strength in your relationship. When discussions are at risk of getting out of hand, you are able to put on the brakes and effectively calm each other down. For more ideas on how to soothe your partner and yourself during conflict, check out this blog post.
- Below 50: Your relationship would benefit from some improvement in this area. By learning how to repair your interactions, you can dramatically improve the effectiveness of your problem solving and develop a more positive perspective on each other and your relationship. Try going trough my notion page to find out how to successfully communicating with your partner
Source: Benson, K. (2023). Love Quiz: How Well Do You Repair Your Relationship? The Gottman Institute. https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-well-do-you-repair-your-relationship/