So, as seen in the video, there is no way to be a 100% sure whether your partner is the right one for you. When it comes to marriage, what you don't know can truly hurt you. Whether due to shyness, lack of interest, or the desire to preserve a romantic mystery, many couples fail to ask the challenging questions that relationship experts believe lay the foundation for a stable marriage. Taking the initiative to ask these questions in advance can prevent future conflicts and misunderstandings. Here are 13 Questions you should discuss with your partner before getting married (Stanford, 2016):
- Did your family throw plates, calmly discuss issues or silently shut down when disagreements arose?
- Will we have children, and if we do, will you change diapers?
- Will our experiences with our exes help or hinder us?
- How important is religion? How will we celebrate religious holidays, if at all?
- Is my debt your debt? Would you be willing to bail me out?
- What’s the most you would be willing to spend on a car, a couch, shoes?
- Can you deal with my doing things without you?
- Do we like each other’s parents?
- How important is sex to you?
- How far should we take flirting with other people? Is watching pornography O.K.?
- Do you know all the ways I say “I love you”?.
- What do you admire about me, and what are your pet peeves?
- How do you see us 10 years from now?
Source: Stanford, E. (2016, March 23). 13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married. The New York Times. https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2016/03/23/fashion/weddings/marriage-questions.html