There are many guides when it comes to success. For this page I have chosen 2 books that both emphasize on the best ways to become successful. There are many principles in different areas of life where you can work towards becoming more successful. What I found interesting is the overlap of both books in many areas. And spoiler, the recommendations are no magic. They are probably something you have heard of already. There is no magic behind success. However sometimes we need to hear something several times before we take action and finally do the work that is needed.
Bodo Schäfer (2001). Die Gesetze der Gewinner: Erfolg und ein erfülltes Leben.
- 1. If you want to be a winner you have to make courageous decisions - show willingness to learn. A bad decision is better than none. Work on your own attitude. Train your decision-making ability like a muscle. Search for new perspectives.
- 2. Use negative emotions as a driver. All dreams are realizable. Start making a dream album and work towards achieving them.
- 3. Find your own way to become your own boss. This does not mean you need to be self employed. But basically take your life in your own hands. Take responsibility for yourself. Productivity and employment is not the same! Have in mind: What generates revenue, what is a waste of time?
- 4. Create structure and learn to handle stress. It makes life so much easier if you have a functioning system in place where. Structure and important handling of stress. Better plan 2h buffer and rather do only one thing at a time.
- 5. Learn from masters and get momentum from new situations.
- 6. Spent less money than you earn. Pretty easy, but very effective to not get into financial distress.
Stephen R. Covey (1989). Die 7 Wege zur Effektivität: Prinzipien für persönlichen und beruflichen Erfolg.
- Work on your character, not only on your habits. Always try to come clean with yourself first. And then strive for more depth and connections with other people.
- Bring your view into harmony with universal principles of living together. Don’t fight fights you can not win. Be aware of your subjective perception. Recognize behavior patterns and practice self-reflection. Try to fit in wherever it is not inevitable for you to do otherwise and therefore safe energy for the important stuff.
- Be proactive and take control of your destiny. It is all about how you handle a situation..focus on what you can influence yourself, "make your own weather”.
- Always do the most important thing first (good time management) – important / urgent chart. Most things that bring most success are the not urgent but important ones.
- Establish win-win mentalities.
- Invest in stable relationships. Building stable relationships is like an emotional investment. Keep promises, be an empathetic listener, articulate clearly and understandably. Don't blab- try to really understand others. Always try to understand before you make yourself understood. We tend to project our own feelings onto others. Listen honestly and attentively.
- Take breaks so you don’t burn out!
Additional hacks for you to become more successful
We have a choice on how we (re)act!
There is a gab between an action (trigger) and the reaction (from us) that we are often not aware of. Focusing on this short window however can transform our life and our success. Mel Robins describes this window in her 5 second rule. In those 5 second gap you can decide for example if you follow your old habits or if you start changing. Being clear in what you want and then paying attention to this gap next time for example you want to eat a candy bar can help you to stay true to yourself. Stephen R. Covey (1989) also puts it very aptly: “Freedom arises from the gap between external stimulus and your reaction”. To learn more about it, feel free to watch Mel Robins Video below.
WATCH Mel Robins Video here:
Mel Robbins (2020). One of the Best Talks Ever on Self-Motivation. Behind the Brand.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_BNDdamTDak (min 5:33-7:12)
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